BEST PRACTICE TIPS
MANAGING AND REGULATING YOUR EMOTIONS BEST PRACTICE TIPS
Self-Management & Regulation is the ability to use the self-awareness of your emotions to stay flexible, adaptable and to be able to direct your behavior toward positive outcomes. As a leader you cannot afford to have out bursts and you must focus on the long-term goals. Consider these categories of learning that can help you on your path:
- Recognize stress in your body (heat, sweating, stopped listening, frustrated).
- When you feel tension, breathe deeply & count to 3 before responding.
- Don’t be afraid to tell others you are working on yourself so they can give you feedback.
- Learn and practice self soothing practices like meditation, afirmations, listening to music, doing small exercises to increase your body energy, being with friends, taking a warm bath. Find what works for you and take time to appreciate you.
- Re-phrase negative internal talk to positive options. Instead of
“I really can’t do this”: Think… “I will try and if I fail, I will try again.”
- From your daily journal, notice the trends and work on the emotions you want to control. Practice and be patient with yourself.
- Find strengths in yourself and your team twice as often as looking for weaknesses.
- Learn and teach how to handle conflict constructively.
- Look for mentors who are good at your trigger situations and ask for advice.
- Ask yourself each week how you can improve by just 1%.
- Schedule time each day just to ask how everyone is doing.
- Make a point of learning one new thing about a person each day.
- Be honest about your own biases and work to change them.
- Link up on social media with a variety of groups and people to get different perspectives.
- Exercise with others or have a walking club at lunch hour.
- Join a social group, a charity or volunteer just to meet people.
- Go to places you don’t normally go.
- Go out of your way to try new things. It expands your mind and your spirit.
- Celebrate when you do something you normally would not. That is the first step.
PLANNING & TAKING CONTROL
- List out reasonable goals you can actually achieve.
- Check your intuition decisions with facts. Try considering the opposite of what you are thinking to see if there are other alternatives.
- Use lists to keep track but make the list short and time based. This allows more opportunity for success and increased positive emotions to repeat.
- Use the 5 second rule to minimize procrastination. Count to 5 and just do one thing towards your goal. It doesn’t matter how small the action is. Repeat.
- Tell a friend or peer what you want to achieve so you have more commitment.
- Praise and reward yourself when you complete each action step.
- Remember a plan can change. Try not to stress over this, but rather know it will happen.
- Set healthy boundaries so you can get stuff done. Learn to recognize what stops you and limit those things when you can.
- Get your body moving to change your energy state. Increased energy also increased your positive mood.